Unspoken Needs

My royal eminence… Today I want to shout out to people who grew up with emotionally resistant folks and keep finding themselves sitting through conversations of people talking about how supportive and understanding their families are, while you are essentially guiding yourself through life. If you ain't

heard it before, hear it now… You are brave. You are strong. I SALUTE YOU.

Now listen, Its not that you’re unfortunate. Life is what it is and to find yourself in such a position is not your choice. Plus it hurts and that pain, is the foundation of protective mechanisms, we ultimately adopt to shield ourselves from similar experiences. It is its very essence. These shields gradually become our prisons. You find it difficult to completely open yourself up to love or to offer love to others, mainly due to fear of emotional abandonment. Also knowing and loving yourself becomes troublesome. Perhaps you don’t think you deserve love…no? Now funny enough, those who grew up with emotionally un-supportive folks are at best vaguely unaware of their own emotional detachment…which kind of makes sense… and when you finally get the emotional support you didn't even know you needed, it could be overwhelming. The trick is to learn how to balance. Have what you deserve but learn when to stop. Too much of anything is toxic. Lastly, become what you expect to attract. Become that parent that is involved. Focus on healing yourself. In this way, you show others that healing comes from within. It is not an outside job. This is the only way we can heal the world. Now go back to the last line of the first paragraph and read it again. My royal eminence… Today I want to shout out to people who grew up with emotionally resistant folks and keep finding themselves sitting through conversations of people talking about how supportive and understanding their families are, while you are essentially guiding yourself through life. If you ain't heard it before, hear it now… You are brave. You are strong. I SALUTE YOU. Now listen, Its not that you’re unfortunate. Life is what it is and to find yourself in such a position is not your choice. Plus it hurts and that pain, is the foundation of protective mechanisms, we ultimately adopt to shield ourselves from similar experiences. It is its very essence. These shields gradually become our prisons. You find it difficult to completely open yourself up to love or to offer love to others, mainly due to fear of emotional abandonment. Also knowing and loving yourself becomes troublesome. Perhaps you don’t think you deserve love…no? Now funny enough, those who grew up with emotionally un-supportive folks are at best vaguely unaware of their own emotional detachment…which kind of makes sense… and when you finally get the emotional support you didn't even know you needed, it could be overwhelming. The trick is to learn how to balance. Have what you deserve but learn when to stop. Too much of anything is toxic. Lastly, become what you expect to attract. Become that parent that is involved. Focus on healing yourself. In this way, you show others that healing comes from within. It is not an outside job. This is the only way we can heal the world.Now go back to the last line of the first paragraph and read it again.